Make sure that your life is always expanding by being courageous. Having your life shrink is no fun at all, and it does happen if you’re not careful. You can travel the world on a shoestring, start your own business, and find the love of your life all at the same time if you’re courageous enough. On the flip side you can see your friend list shrink, see your bank account dwindle, and end up with the wrong person if you’re not courageous enough. It’s a two-edged sword that you want to be on the right side of.
Because positivity is so infectious, it naturally becomes a quality that other people want in their lives. Those of us who can keep a positive attitude in the face of tough times, become an inspiration for everyone else. Positivity is an attractive personality trait, and can go far when it comes to personal and professional relationships. If you are not an inherently positive personal, there are a number of ways by which you can change this. Writing, meditation, affirmations, and integrating more play into your life are all ways that you can rewire your brain to be more focused on the positive aspects of your experience.
“How sweet the morning air is! See how that one little cloud floats like a pink feather from some gigantic flamingo. Now the red rim of the sun pushes itself over the London cloud-bank. It shines on a good many folk, but on none, I dare bet, who are on a stranger errand than you and I. How small we feel with our petty ambitions and strivings in the presence of the great elemental forces of Nature!”
It does take courage to make a stand and go up against your enemies, but what happens when it’s your friends that you have to stand up to? This is when it becomes very hard indeed to go against the grain and stand up for what you believe is right. So many times young women are lured into what their group of friends is saying or doing, even when they know it’s not right. It may end up that you’re not friends with those people anymore, but you’ll make new friends that share your values.
If you have children, or if you have ever been a child, you know that friendships can be hard, and great friendships can be hard to find. Learning to share your favorite toys, taking turns, and saying that you are sorry is all part of the process. As we navigate our way through middle school, we learn more about being a good friend. What it feels like to have a friend stick up for you in a crowd, to hold you a spot at the lunch table, and to tell you when you have something stuck in your braces. Sometimes those first best friends are with you into adulthood, and sometimes our friends change as we grow and also change. We all seek to find that real friend who will be with us through thick and thin. She tells you when you can find a more flattering pair of jeans, help you find the courage to quit a job that you hate going to, and loves you enough to tell you when the boyfriend you are chasing after, is no good for you. How lucky we are if we have found a best friend.