12. When change happens, you have a choice for how you are going to respond. You can either lose your composure and react impetuously or use the event or situation as a learning opportunity to shift your mindset and respond appropriately. Begin to notice your responses when changes occur and do your best to choose a breakthrough over a breakdown. ― Susan C. Young
"Every friendship travels at sometime through the black valley of despair. This tests every aspect of your affection. You lose the attraction and the magic. Your sense of each other darkens and your presence is sore. If you can come through this time, it can purify with your love, and falsity and need will fall away. It will bring you onto new ground where affection can grow again." John O'Donohue
A smile costs nothing but gives much. It enriches those who receive without making poorer those who give. It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever. None is so rich or mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor that he cannot be made rich by it. Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away. Some people are too tired to give you a smile. Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give. ~Author unknown
Much of what we see in the world is a reflection of how we feel inside. The brain is literally creating your experience moment to moment, and part of this is by top-down processes. This means that your prefrontal cortex, the newest part of your brain, which deals with your thoughts, is relaying information to your mammalian cortex, which handles emotions. These emotions then go on to inform deeper and older parts of the brain, including sensory experience and pain. This means that when we say a positive attitude can recreate your reality, it’s not just a metaphor, it’s a physiological fact!
Instead of pondering what the best strategy is to get something done, you just do it. When you focus on getting it done you’ll find ways to get it done better as you’re getting it done. So much time can be wasted on a project or a task just by becoming overwhelmed with the size or the difficulty of it. When you get into the mindset of just doing it, no matter what it involves, you’ll find that the tasks become easier and everything flows.
Best friends send a “check in-text” to see if you need an excuse to end your date early.  They show up with seven-up and movies when you are sick, and they don’t give up shopping until you have found the perfect wedding dress.  True friends hang out after your party and help you clean up and do the dishes.  They show up with meals after your baby is born, and they offer to take your toddler to the park when they know you need a break.
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