They say that some rules are made to be broken, and still others are made to be bent. She’s not saying that you should break the law, but our society has so many rules put in place that if you conform to them all you might have a bland and vanilla time here. Find out which rules are getting in the way of some good clean fun, and test the boundaries. Life isn’t about staying within the lines, it’s about doing what you want without getting in the way of others doing what they want.
“What kind of answer could she give? If there’s one thing she hated, it was labels. Sam thought about the kiss they had shared and all the times they had held one another late at night. It was yes, wasn’t it? The right answer. Sam wished it to be so, but she had never discussed it with Lance and both of them had openly used the word ‘friend’ when explaining their situation. Sam thought about it until her head hurt.”
What a sweet quote that reminds us that the only person you’ll ever have your entire life is you, and that if you fall in love with yourself first you’ll have an easier time. The best part about this quote is that it doesn’t mean you can’t find love in another, but if you don’t love yourself you’re going to have trouble attracting that special someone into your life. It starts with you first, and finding a happy place with yourself, which will make others see the value you possess and treat you accordingly.
It’s long since been known that helping others can be a source of joy. What many people overlook, however, is that this help doesn’t have to be in the form of some grand gesture. Because we’re social creatures who constantly take cues from those around us about how to feel, smiling is truly infectious and simply sharing your smile with those around you.
Much of what we see in the world is a reflection of how we feel inside. The brain is literally creating your experience moment to moment, and part of this is by top-down processes. This means that your prefrontal cortex, the newest part of your brain, which deals with your thoughts, is relaying information to your mammalian cortex, which handles emotions. These emotions then go on to inform deeper and older parts of the brain, including sensory experience and pain. This means that when we say a positive attitude can recreate your reality, it’s not just a metaphor, it’s a physiological fact!
67.) “Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.”