“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.”
13. If you chase anything in life chase the things that get you excited about living. Chase the things that give you hope, happiness and a glimpse of a better life. Chase the things that make you want to be a better person. Chase the things that inspire you to think, create and live joyfully. Chase the things that reinforce in your soul that you can make a difference. Chase the things that make you want to transform your heart from selfish to selfless. When you chase that kind of storm you are chasing rainbows. ― Shannon L. Alder
Marriage is a 24 hour job. You get married, you’re no longer an individual. You can’t do nothing by yourself when you get married. Everything is a team effort. ‘Us’, ‘we’, ‘let’s’, honey, come on partner. You can’t do nothing by yourself. Kevin: Baby I’m gonna be right back I’m going to the store. Wife: Well, wait, let me get my coat. Kevin: Bit__, it’s right there on the corner. I just wanna get some chips. I ain’t going to sleep with nobody. Kevin Hart (Video)
They say that some rules are made to be broken, and still others are made to be bent. She’s not saying that you should break the law, but our society has so many rules put in place that if you conform to them all you might have a bland and vanilla time here. Find out which rules are getting in the way of some good clean fun, and test the boundaries. Life isn’t about staying within the lines, it’s about doing what you want without getting in the way of others doing what they want.
Here is a definition of both success and happiness that seems to resonate with something deep inside the human spirit. So many times it seems success and happiness defy definition, but really you’d have to say you’re successful if you’re getting what you want. So many people get what they want but aren’t happy, which means that when they got what they want they found out it wasn’t enough, or wasn’t what they thought it would be. Be successful and happy by wanting what you get, and getting what you want.
Here’s a life lesson that you would be wise to internalize. If you want to greet the world in a fearless way, if you want to be independent, and be victorious in the quest to achieve your goals and dreams, you have to believe you have what it takes first. It’s easy to think that you can have these things without belief, but it starts with belief and you can’t allow anything to come into your life until you believe it first. Memorize this quote, read it everyday until it becomes a part of you, and you’ll see it unfold in your life.
For years, I worked in several organizations and one behavior I always did in arriving at work was comprised of two things at the same time. The first was to say good morning and the next was to smile as I said it. By the time I got to my work area, I had smiled to over twelve people. Now, I admit, there were a lot of mornings when I really didn't feel like smiling or even to say hello. But, I did anyway and the interesting result was that by the time I reached my work area, I felt better. Byron Pulsifer, Just Smile
Smiling is one of the best healthy habits that you can adopt. It’s much more tangible than “positive-thinking” and is therefore easier for your body and mind to remember to do. Simply pick something that you do every day, like brushing your teeth or getting on a bus, and try and smile every single time you do it. Once you’ve made it a habit, you can bring smiling into other domains until it’s become something you naturally do all the time.
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives means the most us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares. Henri Nouwen