Smiling is one of the best healthy habits that you can adopt. It’s much more tangible than “positive-thinking” and is therefore easier for your body and mind to remember to do. Simply pick something that you do every day, like brushing your teeth or getting on a bus, and try and smile every single time you do it. Once you’ve made it a habit, you can bring smiling into other domains until it’s become something you naturally do all the time.
Only Mother Teresa has the credibility to talk about the small things that lead to great things in our lives. She was the perfect model for doing small things with great love. It’s always nice when the speaker of a quote is also a shining example for what she is saying. What small things will you do today with great love? It is the culmination of these small things done with great love that become something great, and instead of focusing on the bigger picture you have to focus on doing those small things in a loving way.
When your life is in turmoil, think of a waterfall. The water (your life) is flowing along normally at a steady pace when suddenly, there is a dip (event in your life or a problem) which results in the water going into a state of turmoil as it falls deeper and deeper with no sign of an end to the turmoil. Then the water hits the bottom and splashes into a larger state of turmoil (this is the peak before things start to get better) before gradually blending into calm stream again (normality).
“But on a Sunday morning when I want to grab an omelet over girl talk, I’m at a loss. My Chicago friends are the let’s-get-dinner-on-the-books-a-month-in-advance type. We email, trading dates until we find an open calendar slot amidst our tight schedules of workout classes, volunteer obligations (no false pretenses here, the volunteers are my friends, not me, sadly), work events, concert tickets and other dinners scheduled with other girls. I’m looking for someone to invite to watch The Biggest Loser with me at the last minute or to text “pedicure in half an hour?” on a Saturday morning. To me, that’s what BFFs are.”
“Surround yourself with positive people who believe in your dreams. Distance yourself from negative people who try to lower your motivation and decrease your ambition. Create space for positive people to come into your life. Surround yourself with positive people who believe in your dreams, encourage your ideas, support your ambitions, and bring out the best in you.” – Roy T. Bennett
If you have children, or if you have ever been a child, you know that friendships can be hard, and great friendships can be hard to find. Learning to share your favorite toys, taking turns, and saying that you are sorry is all part of the process. As we navigate our way through middle school, we learn more about being a good friend. What it feels like to have a friend stick up for you in a crowd, to hold you a spot at the lunch table, and to tell you when you have something stuck in your braces. Sometimes those first best friends are with you into adulthood, and sometimes our friends change as we grow and also change. We all seek to find that real friend who will be with us through thick and thin. She tells you when you can find a more flattering pair of jeans, help you find the courage to quit a job that you hate going to, and loves you enough to tell you when the boyfriend you are chasing after, is no good for you. How lucky we are if we have found a best friend.