“Don't let the expectations and opinions of other people affect your decisions. It's your life, not theirs. Do what matters most to you; do what makes you feel alive and happy. Don't let the expectations and ideas of others limit who you are. If you let others tell you who you are, you are living their reality — not yours. There is more to life than pleasing people. There is much more to life than following others' prescribed path. There is so much more to life than what you experience right now. You need to decide who you are for yourself. Become a whole being. Adventure.”
Much of what we see in the world is a reflection of how we feel inside. The brain is literally creating your experience moment to moment, and part of this is by top-down processes. This means that your prefrontal cortex, the newest part of your brain, which deals with your thoughts, is relaying information to your mammalian cortex, which handles emotions. These emotions then go on to inform deeper and older parts of the brain, including sensory experience and pain. This means that when we say a positive attitude can recreate your reality, it’s not just a metaphor, it’s a physiological fact!
Leave it to Oprah to talk about how to live life in the real fast lane. Why drive when you can fly? She says that all you need to do is connect your power to your passion and off you go. Think about how Oprah has lived her life. She definitely got her power and her passion linked up, and it has provided her the energy and drive to become a billionaire. She is entirely self-made, which makes her a great role model for young women that want to earn a lot of money and are starting out with little.
They say that some rules are made to be broken, and still others are made to be bent. She’s not saying that you should break the law, but our society has so many rules put in place that if you conform to them all you might have a bland and vanilla time here. Find out which rules are getting in the way of some good clean fun, and test the boundaries. Life isn’t about staying within the lines, it’s about doing what you want without getting in the way of others doing what they want.
It may take you a while to find your voice and develop it into one that can be heard, but once you do have it you won’t ever want to let it go. Imagine someone trying to silence your voice after all the trouble you’ve gone through to get it? The nerve of some people! That’s what makes this quote so memorable, it’s speaks to the part of us that doesn’t want to give up the things we’ve worked so hard to attain. First, work on developing your voice, and you won’t have to worry about defending it, that will come naturally.
“Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on around them. They stay focused on their past successes rather than their past failures, and on the next action steps they need to take to get them closer to the fulfillment of their goals rather than all the other distractions that life presents to them.” – Jack Canfield
When your life is in turmoil, think of a waterfall. The water (your life) is flowing along normally at a steady pace when suddenly, there is a dip (event in your life or a problem) which results in the water going into a state of turmoil as it falls deeper and deeper with no sign of an end to the turmoil. Then the water hits the bottom and splashes into a larger state of turmoil (this is the peak before things start to get better) before gradually blending into calm stream again (normality).
Speaking up for yourself is a learned habit, no one is just born with it, they had to develop the skill. It’s an important skill, and one that will benefit you all the days of your life and help you become the best woman you can be. This dovetails nicely with fighting for your dreams, because when you pursue a dream you’re going to have to do a lot of speaking up for yourself. There are those that will try to dissuade you from reaching your dreams and goals and you will have to find your voice.
– Karen SalmansohnI am sure it is obvious, but having a positive attitude, like in the quotes above, is a key to positivity.Or maybe it is better to say that positivity is a result of a positive attitude.When you go with the flow and treat things with only the concern they are due, it is far easier to keep that positive attitude.What else can you do to keep a positive attitude?Gratitude. It may seem weird but being grateful for the things that others have done for you, and letting them know about it, has been shown to have a huge impact on positivity, happiness and general well being. One of the best ways to express this gratitude is by writing a daily journal or even better writing in a purpose built gratitude journal.Face your Fears. We all have things that we are scared of. I am not just talking about, “monsters under the bed”. But scary “real world” fears, like speaking in public. Letting these fear get the better of you leads to stress, anxiety, depression and more negativity. Face your fears, and positivity flows.Exercise. Exercise is well known to release “happy” hormones. Simply exercise every single day, even if it just a bit of healthy walking, and you will feel more capable and positive.Want to more about what it takes to be positive. Check out the article linked below that goes into detail on what it takes to make positivity a permanent part of your life.16 Quotes on Positivity in the Workplace“Learning is a gift. Even when pain is your teacher.”
There are some things in life that are beyond our control, and even after we do our best to make them better they still stink. At that point it’s best not to spend any more energy on them, but just to laugh it off. You have to keep your good feelings going, and not get so caught up on something that is resistant to change. This quote says that you should try to make it better, and if you’re not successful at that to simply write it off and find humor in it. This is a good way to go about it since you’ll go crazy the other way.
The moment when you first wake up in the morning is the most wonderful of the twenty-four hours. No matter how weary or dreary you may feel, you possess the certainty that, during the day that lies before you, absolutely anything may happen. And the fact that it practically always doesn’t, matters not a jot. The possibility is always there.Monica Baldwin